Why do a number of you girls always seem to fall for the wrong kind of guy, over and over again?
The answer may be all in the timing…
Attractive men, as you no doubt know, fall into two distinct categories:
Lover
Think- Diet coke break, the pool guy, tear-away celebrities, rock stars, bikers, adventurers.
Provider
Think- Caring partner who will look after you and your offspring, devoted father and defender of the nest so to speak.
Now my guess is, that if you find yourself in repetitively wild and crazy relationships with unpredictable guys who seem a little hard to pin down into a long-term monogamous relationship, then you are most likely looking a little too keenly for the Lover traits in the man of your dreams. If, however, you always end up with the boring guy in the suit who wants to stay home on a summer’s weekend and watch the news followed by the sports channel, then you’ve probably gone too far into the Provider realm, as he’s exhausted from earning that mountain money all week (at which point you’ll no doubt find yourself wondering what time that pool guy is coming round on Monday…) This is where affairs are born, the gradual slip from needing a provider to wanting a lover, and we all know how it feels to truly feel a sense of wanting, don’t we girls…;o) So to turn this all on it’s head I’ve come up with a theory based on hair.
Yep, you read it right, hair is the reason you ended up with your last boyfriend and the one before him no doubt. Before you think me mad or a little unhinged, allow me to explain:
During a girl’s cycle, there are two distinct periods of sexual activity and inactivity. The peak of sexual desire and lustful activity is commonly strongest during the days up to ovulation. Meaning that conversely, the inactive time is usually during the less fertile periods which encompass the couple of weeks on the other end of the monthly cycle. This, I’m sure, you are all plainly aware of, but during an experiment by David Perrett of St Andrews University, something interesting came to light…
Perrett took some photographs of men, and made two copies of each face. These he manipulated with photoshop to make one slightly more masculine looking by enhancing the hair and deepening the eyebrows, squaring the chin and thinning the lips. The other, previously identical picture then had the opposite treatment applied to make it appear more feminine. These differences were extremely subtle, and one may have to look quite hard in order to put a finger on what was different about them, but when placed side by side and shown to a number of women, the reaction was clear. Virtually all the girls that were near their ovulation period had a strong preference for the more masculine featured version of the man, whereas the softer, more feminised version was preferred by all that were in the less active part of their cycle.
One conclusion to draw from this could be, that the timing of when and where you go out may be led by your natural instinct to find a certain kind of man. If you find you socialise more during the periods of or near ovulation, then your radar will be scanning for the “Lover” types of men who are generally more forward and masculine in their manner. Conversely, I might suggest that if you find you socialise more when you are in a less fertile state, then you’re more likely to go to environments where the “Provider” species of male may be found grazing in larger numbers…
Contrast this with another experiment, this time conducted by the famous (and extremely amusing) evolutionary psychologist Geoffrey Miller.
Miller conducted his work with no less than 5,300 erotic dancers and strippers. He asked each one of these girls two simple questions after they had worked a normal five hour shift:
- How much the girl made in tips that night?
- At what point in her menstrual cycle was she?
Once Miller had all of the results, he divided them into three groups:
- Those that were ovulating.
- Those that were menstruating.
- Those who were neither.
So what was the outcome? What group did the men find most attractive? Remember there are over five thousand girls being studied here, so there’s no question of one group being better dancers or more physically attractive, it’s all down to the “vibe” they are giving off.
Well, the ovulators came out on top, so to speak, with an average tip of £325 versus the menstruators average of only £180. That’s an enormous 80% increase in wages for the ovulators versus the menstruators! They’re obviously sending a signal out that’s massively more attractive to the men around them than their counterparts.
So not only are you discarding the “Provider” types of men from your radar whilst you’re ovulating, and hunting specifically for a rugged “Lover” type of man, you’re actually sending out a signal that specifically draws him to you as well. No wonder you always attract the “Love you and leave you” types!
This month’s experiment:
A simple experiment to help you become more attuned to your body. Whenever you find yourself talking to a guy you find attractive, firstly give him a hotness rating out of ten (you can do it in your head, you don’t have to write it down). Then, make a note of where you are in your cycle. The number you first arrived at is correct if you are neither ovulating or menstruating. If, however, you are ovulating, then deduct three points from his hotness rating. Conversely, if you are menstruating, then you need to add three points to his rating.
This is just a fun idea, but will allow you to have a more level view of if you’d met him at another point in your cycle, and how your feelings may have differed then.
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Author: Hag Hughes.
Author: Hag Hughes.
